Tuesday, January 24, 2017

House of Cards: Sudha Murthy My review



Synopsis:
House of Cards is the story of Mridula, a bright young woman with enormous enthusiasm for life who hails from a Karnataka village. A chance meeting with Sanjay, a talented but impoverished doctor, leads to love and the couples marry and settle in Bangalore. The more Mridula sees of the world, the more she realizes how selfish and materialistic people can be, but she does not take the ups and downs of life to heart and lives each day with positive energy. Trouble brews when Sanjay quits his government job and starts an immensely successful private practice. With affluence comes the never-ending ambition for more and the inevitable slide into corrupt practices. For a long time, Mridula has no idea that Sanjay has sold his soul. When the truth hits her, she has no recourse but to walk out on him, but can she really find a space of her own? This intricately woven novel explores human relationships in telling detail and holds up a mirror to our society with candor and with conviction.
About the author:
Sudha Murthy is one of the most down to earth writers I have seen in recent times. Her story has the power to change the way we think and it puts across the point very strongly and subtly. Very few authors have been able to achieve that. Her books can be read by all, as the story connects easily and the language used is simple.
My Review:
The book is one of the most beautiful stories I have read. The point of view of female lead is put across strongly. A fact that has been ignored for many years and still exists.
Most men don’t realize how the woman feels when ignored or when facts are hidden from her. The story talks about how the character of someone doesn’t change with money. Mridula was so righteous and true to her feelings and emotions that she thinks everyone is like her. She forgot that there is other side too. So the truth, when hits her she’s shattered. Another important thing the book talks about is the importance of communication and the importance of being heard. This story talks about the change we want to see. All the characters in the story are well etched be it the practical mom, shrewd sister or the ignorant bordering ruthless husband who becomes too money minded.

My Rating:
I would rate the book 4/5 and now am happy to learn and read about such good author. I will now read all her books and yes, her story book for the kids also deserve a special mention as they have wonderful stories and great for inculcating reading habits in kids.

Monday, January 23, 2017

A letter to MIL

PS: This is not a personal post, just a few thoughts i gathered by speaking to a few people.




No, I am not against them. I respect them the most and believe some daughter in laws are the luckiest to get a most understanding Mother in law. But this just a point of view of the ones who don’t often get to put across their point and share their dilemma.
When most of us get married, we come with a hope that if not a daughter at least we would be treated as a daughter in law, a human being and would be given time and space to understand and adjust to the new relations and family we enter.
We accept that mistakes are a part of life and given a chance, we would make sure not to repeat them. But please don't hold them against us for there are a lot of things we don't realize in this new life marriage brings. We seek your patient guidance and blessings.

We too would become moms , we go through a lot of pains and we also would like to give the right value to the kids, help/ guidance appreciated but not all views you give would be followed by us doesn’t mean we don’t respect it’s just that we too have a point of view.
If anything you don’t like or feel we doing are wrong, feel free to communicate. We are not perfect we do mistakes we learn, don’t misunderstand and hold things we say randomly against us. Maybe we might not even have meant what you gauged. Like we respect and love you in spite of the differences between us you also should forget and forgive and hold them for a lifetime. This would always become a barrier otherwise.
We don’t expect to treat us as a daughter form the word go, but at least treat us like a daughter in law and keep an open mind, maybe we will be the daughter you always wished. We would make an attempt to at least be one.

Daughter in law.

Sunday, January 22, 2017

The Shaadi Brouhaha..: Arranged Marriage Hungama


Launching a newbie into the Indian matrimonial scene is like introducing a new iPhone in an already saturated market – has to be sleek, overflowing with catchy features, and better than the already available versions. So when twenty-five-year-old Nitya Trivedi is forced into it by her ever so enthusiastic mother and pestering relatives, she hardly knows what she has bargained for. In her journey to find her soul-mate (??!!), she becomes Dollarkumar’s Poundkumari, ends up fasting on party days to make peace with her horrorscope, attends hilarious ‘arranged’ meetings through various matchmaking portals and people – all under the nose of her extremely evil, but deliciously debonair boss Rudra Desai. With besties tying the knot and cousins ‘stealing’ prospective grooms…wonder how Nitya’s mother will find the perfect match for her only daughter. But as always, love will find a way in the midst of The Shaadi Brouhaha.
My Reviews:
Set against Gujarati background, this book gives a first-hand experience of the arranged marriage scenario. Most of us would connect to Nitya. A story heard by all and normally gone through if you are having an arranged marriage. I liked the way the author touched the common topic with a dash of humor to it. It’s a nice, breezy read with no major twists but puts a smile on your face. Those who got married would connect to the incidents mentioned. Those who haven’t will get an idea of how arranged marriage works.
My rating: 

For a debutant author, she has done a good job. A feel good book with a happy ending. Makes a nice light read. I would rate this 3/5. Hope Ms Shah keeps writing such simple and entertaining books.

Saturday, January 21, 2017

In laws

The most important and complicated relation in marriage is dealing with In laws .It can be tricky as well as smooth, depending on how both of them handle/ treat the other one. The most things here are the mindset. If you treat your daughter in law as one, be less judgmental and try to listen and understand her point of view too. The same thing applies to the daughter in law too. Most of the times, a girl when get married looks forward to keep the families bonded and not break as is the notion. I feel the mindset of blaming the in laws/ daughter in law for anything going wrong with your son/ husband is clich├ęd and untrue. 

Every relation has its own strength and weaknesses, working on them would make them strong. Communication is very important and to be keep an open mind to what the other has to say. Closed minds are like locked doors, without opening the lock cannot be opened.

Respect and trust is the most important thing. Instead, we keep holding grudges, keep things to ourselves, go on a defense mode, misunderstand and things go downhill from here. In laws can be like another set of parents, only if both parties believe that can happen.

Life is short and our take away is not material things, only good name and great memories. Make living the life worthwhile.


Friday, January 20, 2017

Why


There are so many whys which remain unanswered. A human mind is an amazing creation. So many thoughts cross our minds every day. I wish could count them. Maybe i would lose count as they are innumerable counts that a mind goes through every day.

1. Why my rotis don't come round all the time?
2. Why is losing weight so difficult for those who want to lose and vice versa?
3. Why does mind wander so much?
4. Why do many (most) of us make promises and break them?
5. Why are the simple pleasures of life lost?
6. Why do we get the best of thoughts when we are asleep or busy?
7. Why can't we read others mind? Half of the world problem would be solved.
8. Why is ego so big? Why do we value our ego so much?
9. Why do we crave for moms food as we grow up when,as kids all we loved was eating out?
10. Why are good times short and worst/ bad so long?
11. Why do we always wish to go back in time?
12. Why are the childhood days so special and we always miss those days?
13. Why do people change? 
14. Why do we miss/ value our parents so much after we grow up?
15. Why do we start valuing things once we start losing them?


And there are so many questions that remain unanswered.



Thursday, January 19, 2017

Musical Thursday

Listening to songs is my passion. As i always say "There's a song for all occasions" .  I love humming to songs.  Today's favorite is 








Wednesday, January 18, 2017

World of blogging

I never planned to join the blogging bandwagon; it was just an impulse decision. Out of curiosity I started penning my thoughts. I had asked my friends to read and share their thoughts on the same. They liked and said that gave me a little push needed to start a blog. Now it’s been close to 6 years that I have been blogging. Yet learning everyday something new and I am excited about this.

I found lots of wonderful blogs like from the editions of green boochi, dreamymommy, little princess to name a few. I was amazed and am still amazed by their clarity of thoughts, writing flair and what not.


Every time they out do themselves with a new and even better posts. These things motivate me to do better. Even today, my blogs are not very famous or known, but a few of people follow me and read my blogs. There might be lot who read and never comment or add themselves, but it’s OK. Earlier, this used to disappoint me, I even thought of just deleting this space, but thought better of it. Today I am in a happy space when I take part in blogothon or complete a challenge. I may have not gained many friends but knowledge, yes. I too will reach my desired place.